"Adoptive Moms" and Unusual Lies
Catch this new celebrity adoption story. Jodi Applegate, 44, an anchor on the New York City Fox News affiliate believed that she was an adoptee for a good portion of her adult life. After her mother passed away her aunt told her the truth. She was not adopted. It seems that Applegate's mother became pregnant in 1963 and moved away from family and friends. After giving birth to her baby girl, she placed the child in a Pittsburgh foster home for 8 months. She later returned, retrieved her daughter and moved back home to West Virginia announcing that she had adopted the little girl.
Wow. I thought that was a new one, but then I found this next similar story.
Academy Award-winning actress Loretta Young gave birth to the love child of Clark Gable in 1935. She placed the infant in an orphange and later returned and adopted the baby girl, according to The Associated Press.
You know, didn't Moses' mom do kind of the same thing? I guess it is true. There is nothing new under the sun.
I "get" why these ladies lied. They wanted to avoid the stigma of being pregnant outside of marriage. But why not tell their children the truth? And along that same line, what makes telling one's child that he or she is adopted so difficult?
This is an interesting article and seems to be backwards and upside down to me as we usually hear of parents not telling their children that they are adopted. But, the serious side of all of this is how traumatizing lying to one's child can be. The aftermath of such news can be the very end of the parent/child relationship.
We hear how many adoptees just "know" that they are adopted or feel out of place in their family. I wonder if Applegate just "knew" that she was not adopted?
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When Parents Lie About Adoption - ABCNews.com
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Comments
I am an adoptee whose mother told him at age 12 that he was adopted. Despite making this revelation in a caring way, I don’t think someone at this tender age is capable of comprehending what it really means. I am a strong proponent of denying, denying, denying that a child was adopted until @ age 21. At that time full disclosure should be made and I’m confident a more mature adoptee will understand and not hold ill feeling toward his adoptive parent(s).
I’m both adopted and a birth mom. I always knew I was adopted — I think many things are much easier to tell a child if you make it a fact of life from the time they are born. I think it would be absolutely wrong to hide the fact that a child is adopted and not tell them until age 21, when it would definitely be much harder to tell. I believe adopted children have a right to know from the start, and should have a right to all information about the birth family. Secrets are never a good thing.
Maggie
I am a “BirthMom” and I got to say that “SECRETS” only HURT and “LIES” have a way of comming out!
BE HONEST!!!
WHY would one NOT tell IF there is NO “SHAME” involved in the TRUTH!??
I was told the day I met my daughters adoptive parents that the “TRUTH WILL BE KNOWN” and I PRAY it isen’t when she is 21 either for that is NOT fair to her, to me or anyone involved!
HONESTLY…WHY WAIT!??
WHY HIDE THE TRUTH???
FOR WHAT???
I never agreed to hide the truth about my brother being adopted. Both my parents forced me to lie from day 1 (I was only 15 years old). Only a few days ago, he found out in an abrupt way, it was not done maliciously, but still it hurt him and now I feel helpless. He is 27 now. I don’t know what to do, I am so hurt as well. He doesn’t want to talk to me yet, he asked me to give him time to be alone and process what he just found out. I truly believe in telling the truth from the beginning, is much better than the risk of the child finding out the way my brother did. I feel awful!