Teaching Foster/Adoptive Children How to Respond to Common Questions
Earlier today I was talking with a friend of mine who is frustrated by family and friends asking personal questions about her newly adopted daughter.
Where did she get those brown eyes, from her birth father?
She's very long legged. Was her birth mom tall?
My friend asked me how she should answer these type of questions in a way that lets people know that the discussion is not welcome.
Well, I'm really not sure how to handle it when it comes to adults asking such questions, but I do have some ideas on how kids can handle this issue in school. I'm a firm believer in the use of cover stories to stall the bullies and otherwise just plain nosy kids.
Get some ideas with your cover stories with "Teaching Foster/Adoptive Children How to Respond to Common Questions".If you have any other ideas that have worked with your foster or adopted children please share in the comments section of the blog.
And if you have any ideas for my friend - please click "comments" and share.How have you handled the busy bodies?
Comments
Well, my mother never discussed the fact that my sister was actually my adopted sister. In fact, I didn’t find out that we weren’t blood until I was 27. I’m not sure if this is really the way to go about it, but that’s what she did.
I guess that she didn’t want the questions either. She told me that she didn’t want me and my blood sister to treat my adoptive sister different. I guess she didn’t understand that blood or not, she’s my sister.