Do You Have the Post Adoption Blues?
This book really opened my eyes as to the pressure that many prospective adoptive parents seem to place upon themselves as they seek to present a perfect representation of themselves for social workers.
Just as real as postpartum depression, post adoption depression can send adoptive parents into a spiral of despair. Perhaps adoptive parents are worn down from the new physical demands of parenting. Perhaps expectations are not fulfilled when the adopted child does not bond as quickly as the new parents had hoped. Whatever the reason, and there are several, post adoption depression is real.
Look for help from authors, Karen J. Foli, Ph.D. and John Thompson, M.D. who lead adoptive parents through The Post-Adoption Blues with many case examples of adoptive families and statements from professionals.
Comments
I’ve known of the existence of PAD for about 13 years, since I was really active in a specialized discussion list (pre-yahoogroups) for families of adoptees from the former Eastern Bloc nations. And oh, was that list moderated!! when it came to negative experiences, because it might deter other parents OR (much more importantly back then) come to the attention of the powers-that-be in the “sending nations”, who were enacting moratoria frequently while the Hague Convention on Intercountry Adoption was being bantered about.
Anyhow, adopting two school-aged half-sisters ruined my life, I believe. Certainly destroyed my marriage and finances.
I am glad that this book is out there, to assist the various members of the “adoption triangle.” And I’m glad that SOME adoptions of post-institutionalized children work out for all involved.
I have been considering adopting for a few years, and have had my ups and downs, excitements and anxieties. I was horrified by the previous post that reads “Anyhow, adopting two school-aged half-sisters ruined my life, I believe. Certainly destroyed my marriage and finances.” Now I am really terrified and discouraged.