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Carrie Craft

Is This a Good Adoption Match?

By November 8, 2013

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When we read the adoption profile of a child in need of an adoptive family a few years ago, we felt that we could meet her needs based on what we had read. We also learned about the child from the adoptive family and the social workers. So, still feeling very confident that she was a good fit for our family, we decided to move on to the next step of the adoption process and did a couple of respite weekend visits.

The child had a big personality and we found ourselves not enjoying her company. We were very overwhelmed with the decision before us and our hearts went out to the child, because she desperately wanted a family. She constantly told us how well she thought the visit was going, and how she thought we all fit in well together.  However, we knew this wasn't the right adoption match for our family.

Her excitement about our home and family made it all the harder to let the workers know that we didn't think it was going to work out.  We could have moved forward out of guilt and added her to our home, but that would not have been wise in the long run.  In fact, it's one of the 10 Reasons Not to Adopt a Child.

But how do you know when a child is the right fit for your family and you're the right match for the child?

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November 15, 2012 at 1:26 pm
(1) mela34 says:

If the child fit in with the other children, when your heart says YES.

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