Yes, most babies, toddlers and preschoolers are just adorable, and as foster parents our hearts do go out to the young members of foster care. However, as a foster parent, there are several things to keep in mind before accepting a foster placement of 2 or more foster children between the ages of 1 and 5. Things to ensure that you, the foster parent, don't lose your mind.
This means if you are licensed for children within this age range, be ready to accept a placement at any time. You might not know the sizes of clothes a child needs or whether the child is still in diapers when a child comes into foster care and enters your home, but you do have a pretty good idea of what children of this age need and what you need to successfully parent them.
When Foster Parents are Licensed to Foster Babies, Toddlers and Preschoolers Between the Ages of 1 and 5 They Will Need to Consider the Following
- Toddler Toys and Activities to Help Foster Parent Toddlers and Preschoolers - Keep toys around that appeal to this age group and are educational and entertaining. Have ideas ready for outside play and activities too.
- Child care - It's not always so easy to secure child care. So try the following tips:
- Keep a list of good babysitters that you trust and are approved per your foster care license.
- What ages do the facilities accept?
- What special needs can they handle?
- Find out what your State will allow in terms of babysitters such as:
This is important if you are working outside the home. Be ready or you will be missing out on a few days of work.
- - how old can a babysitter be,
- - do you have to use a licensed and/or registered day care.
- Do you work from home? - How will you get that work accomplished with toddlers around? Will your state approve of you using child care outside of the home or can you utilize a "mother's helper" and still get your work done?
- Support - If you are going to accept more than one or two toddlers at the same time, you will need assistance and support to make it through toward a healthy adjustment for everyone in your home and family. What kind of support do you have at home? Does your partner have time to come home from work and let you off the parenting clock? Know what kind of support you will need - whether that's emotional or hands on. Communicate with your partner the type of support you will need. Here are a few ideas:
- Call on friends from church
- your social worker
- other foster parents
- Keep a list of stay-at-home or work-at-home moms that you can call to vent about your day or perhaps set up play dates so that you can get out of the house.
- Timing May be the Answer - This goes along with support, have you really considered the timing of adding children to your home and feel that this will work for you and your family? My husband was in the middle of a big remodeling project and would come home from his day job and work on our home. I didn't take this into account - so the timing of adding to our family was off and the support I needed was not available.
Why is all of this important - because the children need time too. They have a lot to adjust to and if you are not ready for them, then how can you as the foster parent help them adjust, which is part of your job as a foster parent.
Toddlers and Preschool Age Foster Children Need Time to Adjust to the Following within a New Foster Home
- adjust to a new home, family, rules, and routines
- work on behaviors
- address fears
- attach to you and your home, because we know that if a child can attach to someone, they can attach to anyone
- maintain or develop deeper, healthier bonds and attachment to their birth family
The bottom line - These are all difficult to handle in and of themselves, but when you, the foster parent, is running crazy with the day-to-day care of the children; and with a placement of two or more toddlers at one time, your day is all about the day-to-day care of the children. There is more to foster parenting than that. I'm not advocating for splitting large sibling sets. I am advocating for being prepared and realistic about placements before they are placed.