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Month by Month New Year's Resolutions for Adoptive Parents

Focus on a Different Goal Each Month

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It's so easy to come up with a long list of New Year's resolutions. While each resolution is a need and important, the list can become a bit overwhelming. One technique I learned was to focus on a different goal each month. So with that in mind, here are 12 New Year's Resolutions for adoptive parents broken down by month.

January - I will continue my education as an adoptive parent by taking parenting classes. I have learned that as my children grow, different needs may arise and I want to be prepared to help my children through difficult times.

February - I will continue to build my relationship with my children by working on our attachment. I know that bonding takes time, and I'm willing to allow our bond to grow and strengthen over time.

March - I will explore opening lines of communication with my child's birth family. If we already have an open adoption, I will work on strengthening that relationship. Knowing that every situation is different, I will keep my child's best interest in mind and if contact with family is not a healthy choice I will explore other opportunities for my child to connect to his birth family through a lifebook.

April - I will help my child connect to his heritage by exploring his culture and incorporating different aspects of his culture into our core family traditions.

May - I will explore the different resources available in my community including therapy, baby-sitters, day care and after school programs because I know that having available, helpful resources will be a great support to my adoptive home.

June - I will look for blogs, support groups and adoption forums where I can connect with other adoptive parents. I know how important it is to learn from other parents.

July - I will work with my child to help her answer the often rude questions that people ask about adoption. I too will work on being prepared to answer questions from my family, friends and community.

August - I will help my child start the school year right by choosing a school that is best suited for my child's special needs.

September - I will help my extended family attach to my child, especially my parents because I know the importance of having grandparents in a child's life. If my parents are not available, I will seek older friends to be surrogate grandparents to my child.

October - I will help my child enjoy the upcoming holidays by preparing her and my family for the different festivities from having fun with fall weather and scary Halloween night to other holidays.

November - I will build up a reading library of adoption books for my child as well as for myself. I realize that relating to other who understand adoption, even if it's just a character in a book is important for my child.

December - I will reflect on a year's worth of learning. I will continue to set goals for myself and my family while preparing for a wonderful holiday season.

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