We've Been a Forever Family Since...
November 5, 2002
Type of Adoption and Age(s) of Child(ren)
We adopted 3 brothers from the foster care system. They were 14, 12, and 10 at the time of our finalization.
My Family's Adoption Story
The 2 younger boys came to us in the summer of 2000 as a foster care placement. Three months later, the oldest came to our home. They were 8, 10, and 12 at the time.
Our sons have severe behavioral issues, but we always saw the best in them and wanted to help break their family cycle of abuse and neglect.
We stuck by our boys and helped them find the resources they needed when they needed them. They are still a part of our family and lives today. I know we have made a difference, even when they are mad at me and I'm frustrated beyond belief!
Advice
- It's important to realize that adoption is forever, not just until they are 18 or out of your home. We still try to be there for our sons whenever they call and need help.
- Make sure that you have the support of your family and friends when adopting any child, but especially when adopting older children. You will need the support and help of your family.
- Document your child's behavior so you can show a pattern of behavior and find help for your child when they need it.
- Finally, you may be surprised by what your family looks like - it may not be the cute baby that you imagined, but a cute tween or 3.
