Readers Respond: What Have You Learned from Reading Adoption Blogs

Reading adoption blogs allows us the opportunity to understand what it means to be an adoptee, or a birth parent, or an adoptive parent.

My opinion of adoption has changed over the years, largely from interacting with the adoption community here at About Adoption & Foster Care as a Guide. I'm very thankful for the lessons learned and my view of adoption, birth parents, adoptees, and parenting in general has been influenced and broadened for the better because of my time here.

What have you learned from reading adoption blogs? Share some of the lessons you've learned from some of your favorite adoption bloggers.

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Found birth family

Although finding my birth mother was a dream come true, there are certain feelings of abandonment that it intensified. Seeing her with her close relationship with my siblings only made me feel that I had been less important to her. Of course I realized that she had had them later and under better circumstances, but emotionally I felt disposable and rejected. I saw the love and affection my siblings had for one another and. as I did, I mourned what I had lost. This brought about the cycle of grief in me like never before. I felt this connection with them but also felt that they did not view me as a sibling. This made me feel angry at her for not having fought for me. We eventually stopped talking because I wanted more from her than she could give. This month I contacted her and I am determined to remember that she suffered and did what she thought was best for me.

—Guest KMcBride

Adult adoptee blogger

Hi there - please stop by my blog - adult adoptee in PA blogging about my story http://chriss717.wordpress.com/

—Guest Chris T

adoption blog

Boundless Joy Arising. www.boundlessjoyarising.blogspot.com We brought our daughter Yelena home from Baby House #2 in Perm Russia in May 2000. She is now 12 and in the 5th grade in Waltham, MA.

—Guest cara

My Favorite Blog

Definitely kimmiequan.blogspot.com They are a beautiful, christian, caring family with 4 biological kids and 4 they have adopted, in the process of adopting another!

—Guest Victoria

Adoption Blogs

I've learned that while there are many attitudes to adoption there is only one set of ethics and it is sadly missing in modern ART and adoption.

—Guest Von

Adoption blogs

This is a great resource- another great adoption blog is on www.thenextfamily.com

—Guest Brandy Black

First Mother Lorraine

Hi, thanks for including Birth Mother, First Mother Forum www.firstmotherforum.com We do try to cover all the issues from the perspective of battle-scarred and enlightened first mothers., with occasional guests posts from others. We are passionately pro reform so that adoptees can be equal to the rest of us who have our original identities intact.

—LorraineDusky

Thanks so much

Wow. Thanks so much for including The Daily Bastardette.

—Guest Marley Greiner/Bastardette

never an easy decision

I am a birth mother who gave two very precious little girls up for adoption when they were 18 months and 4 months, I was a teenager with 2 babies and no education. The aunt of the father adopted my girls, promising I would always be mom, and telling me I would still have rights to my girls, of course that was not true, as soon as the adoption was final the rules and regulations came!!! I did not understand at the time, I was just a kid myself. That was 17 years ago, I was reunited with my girls last year, they are 18 and 17 now, beautiful, wonderful... I never stopped thinking of them girls and never stopped loving them!!! I could be mad at the lady who adopted them, but how could I be mad at the woman who has loved my girls all these years?? I cant, I was unable to provide for my first two daughters so I blessed another woman with two beautiful, healthy little girls, I am glad that abortion was never an alternative.

—stillamom91

Thanks

I've learned as an adoptee, ten years into reunion with my natural family, that I am not as alone as I thought I was. That many of the things I've found on my journey, were found by many many others too. I've learned that there is so much more information out there today, it wasn't like that 10 years ago. With all of these smart adult adoptees sharing their difficult and personal experiences in hopes of changing the adoption process and the way adoption is viewed, that there is no reason for any adopted parent to doubt what so many have to say, any longer. And the "But I didn't know" just won't fly anymore. Thanks to all for putting yourself out there.

—Guest Beth

Glad for your list

You missed 73adoptee at http://73adoptee.blogspot.com/ It's helpful for PAPS and APS to read at least some adoptee blogs. Not an easy read, by any means, but really important to do.

—Osolomama