Mandate Proof of Purchases for all $$$
- Well first off... I just love the invasion of privacy some of you think we, as foster parents, should be subjected to. Having keys to my home? Hidden cameras? You've got to be kidding me! What country do we live in again? Maybe, just maybe, the screening should be a little more in depth? Maybe every dollar of the child care "payment" should be accounted for on items for the child. I foster newborn-2 and of the $392 I get for my little one now... I only have to account for approximately $50 of it! That covers clothing and an allowance. I spend all $392 on my little one (and then some), keep all receipts and can prove I'm not in it for the money whatsoever. If we eliminated the "fostering for the paycheck" foster homes, we'd have a safer, more loving system that HELPS children. For those swayed by the stigma of bad foster homes... know that there are good ones, too. I'd do anything for my foster kids. They may not be my blood but I couldn't love them any more if I tried.
- —Guest Brittan- Foster Mom
Hearing it from the mouth of a Child
- I've been reading the responses written from finish the sentence, and you can see what I was talking about most of these children would rather be with their own parents then in the care of someone else. No not all foster homes are bad there are some very good homes out here but still rather then have the child mistreated and made to feel like there really only taken in for the money is horrible. There already coming out of a dysfunctional home then to be put into another one is a shame. My heart goes out to all children who've been taken away from their parent(s). I've heard them cry out, "I want my mother" when they were delivered to me late at night not knowing why did you come and take me away from my mom. Children don't understand, all they know is that they're now with a perfect stranger. Then as they grow older and no one hears their cries for help no wonder they become problem children and adults. I just feel so sad for these children because they need their parents and really their parents need them. There are so many good parents that with the proper social and living skills could take care of their children just as well or better then strangers can.
- —Guest Terry
- How do or would background checks make a person fully capable of being a foster parent?? Not ever being arrested or imprisoned?? No one is perfect, but I feel what the state feels in order to become the caregiver of a child is sufficient and a great job on their part!! I also feel even more effort should be taken before placing these children back in the homes of their parents! In my opinion, there will never be a sufficient amount of good foster parents to fill the needs of all of the children that should not be in the homes of their parents, raised by their parents because I also feel that the whole system is ABOUT MONEY!!
- —Guest grandmother of child in foster care
Learn About Foster Parents First
- Find out what foster care is and what foster parents go through before making such crazy statements!!!! We too have lives!!!! The classes and inspections and training that foster parents go through maybe should be mandatory for all parents...then we might have people who think twice about having children!!! Some parents are great and go through bad times and just can't handle their situations during those times. Others......well they have their issues that the poor kids have to deal with. Not ALL foster parents are mean...not all are abusive. Unfortunately the minority is ALWAYS focused on and people make assumptions based on those people. Think people before you make idiotic statements.....maybe you should do a little research before making judgements about all foster parents!!!!
- —Guest LMM
Keep Children with Parents
- Children need their parents, and so much money is wasted taking these children out of their homes and put into foster care. Nobody loves a child like their parents, the ones that gave birth to that child. I use to be a foster parent and you can't really care for the child because you're constantly battling the system trying to give a child a good life. Parents should be made to be more responsible for bringing children into the world and unable to care for them. A lot of young woman and young men have never been taught how to care for a child because they're just children themselves. And who suffers but the child that's born to a parent who may have been abused themselves and gets into a situation and that's never been taught coping skills along with living and budgeting skills.
- —Guest Terry
In-house Training for Families
- I would take the money used for foster parents to remodel a factory building make apartments for families and train mother's how to care for their children while they are still in their care. I would have all of the services in the same building for the parent and child. That is my dream that is what I would do.
- —Guest Terry
What about parental rights to family?
- I ADOPTED MY NIECE SHE WAS ABUSED BY , I WENT THROUGH MUCH TO GET HER .NOW IM IN THE PROCESS OF GETTING HER BROTHER HAVING SUCH A HARD TIME GOIN ON THREE YEARS WITH THE SYSTEM WISH THEY WERE HARDER ON THE REAL PARENTS, FOR ME BEING A FAMILY MEMBER I DONT ALL THE BENEFITS LIKE A FOSTER CARE DOES TO ME THAT SHOULD CHANGE. CAUSE I LOVE THEM AS MY OWN BUT BEING single mom with four kids and working full time is hard, and the the foster parents who abuse the system that they don't even care for the children get more support that's whats wrong with the system.
- —Guest r4\gv40
Foster parents Deserve More Respect
- I am a foster parent and do foster care because I love children and truly want to help them. However, knowing that foster children often act out and have learned to manipulate because of their past life situations does not give them the right to disrespect you. Nor does it give the system the right to disrespect you by believing everything the children say against you when they don't get their way. This is not right. As a parent, I had proof from FaceBook messages that my foster child was instigating fights at school and lying about them. The principals saw the messages, but when the child lied to the system, they chose to believe her. This child continues to lie, runaway, be sexually active, cheat, be involved in fights, etc. Turns out she was bi polar and had oppositional defiant disorder. Why does the system not back up their foster parents more and give them help when they ask for it?
Provide Assess to the Foster Home
- To be a foster parent one should have to provide a key to every lock in house and car plus out of house sign papers say the case workers can enter your home any time day or night and walk to the child’s room and talk to them without prior warning. If the foster parent is unwilling to agree to these terms they are not able to be foster care parents. No more calling a head and letting the foster parents know when they are coming; if you are not doing anything wrong you have nothing to fear. For too many kids die in foster care every year and that has to stop now!
- —Guest Dennis
Foster Carers Should Follow Own Rules
- I'm only 15 years old, I was in care from a couple of months old and then got adopted at age 4, the adoption placement lasted 8 years , most of the time I was fairly happy but there are a lot of occasions where I didn't feel part of the family and this was from a young age, plus my adoptive mum and I always used to fall out , when I was 12 there was a big argument and my adoptive mum said she didn't want me in her house any more, without going into detail because that would take really long to go through, I ran away, was brought back and was passed through 4 different family members from my adoptive family, when the final placement broke down and with a lot of meetings I was placed back into foster care and went though two families, I am currently with one family now and cant wait to live independently as I'm sick of being placed with different families. The system is twisted and I don't receive what was discussed with me prior to being placed, money is a big issue. I can't fit everything in.
- —Guest nisha
Ignorant Foster Mom and Biological Mom
- I'm adopted and I think that after you let all 5 of your kids get taken away you shouldn't be allowed to have any more. Then when the kids you've let get taken away come find you and see you've only kept them that eats them up inside. And they should hide cameras inside the foster parents house for the first couple of months to really see how those people are. My foster mom had 8 foster kids and only adopted for cash so I think there should be a limit on how many people can adopt we're not animals you cant just take us in and not care. Even animals shouldn't get treated like this!!
- —Guest desiree shannon
Have Non-biased Investigators
- Make sure that kids would not be kidnapped from school because of a very elaborate storyteller (whether that be nurses, teachers, workers or the child themselves) No state funding for number of kids adopted out or fostered out... P.S. I would also fire all the pedophiles that work with the agency "legally" kidnapping kids.
- —Guest CouldBeU
Create Different Laws for Infants
- Just like the 6 month termination suggested already. Infants/newborns that enter the system should be legally made crown wardship at 6 months and be available to adopt with no red tape. People that have newborns removed and can't prove themselves or get their act together after 6 months don't deserve to mess up a kid's life. Plus the newborn has already bonded with their foster family so let's stop screwing up their trust and ability to bond! The 6 Month Law should be put into place now across the board.
- —Guest Cath
Change the System
- Well, I grew up in the foster care system. By the time I was 14 I had been in 11 different homes. I think that it should be harder to become a foster parent and if you become one that you should be in mandatory classes to learn how to care for foster children. I also feel if you bring a foster child into your home you should treat that child like you have given birth to him/her and love that child unconditionally because that is the one thing all foster children are wanting and they will do ANYTHING to get your attention. I also would say that there is a need for more social workers so kids don't fall through the cracks. Lastly I believe that if a parent gets their child taken away that they should not be allowed to have another one. My biological mother had 4 kids all of which ended up in foster homes and we all are paying the price as adults.
- —Guest sunsprite
- There are many misconceptions to what foster care is & what it isn't. It's about families helping families & not about "shopping" for children. There is no money scheme going on when it comes to caring for children, as some think. The public needs to be educated to the role foster care plays. With that said though, there needs to be unity throughout the system so that everyone is on the same page. Yes, parents are given way too many chances most of the time, but it all boils down to the judicial system. If there are laws/policies that state a certain criteria then they need to be upheld. Everyone wants to point fingers at who's fault it is, or at who isn't doing their job. The foster care system is imperfect & broken. The best interest of the children needs to come first. If you have never provided foster care it is easy to think bad things. Foster parents do what biological parents should have been doing. Who is up with the child when they are sick, for example? Foster parents need to be treated with more respect!
- —Guest April