Readers Respond: How Have You Handled an Allegation as a Foster or Adoptive Parent?

An abuse or neglect allegation against a foster parent or an adoptive parent is so very hurtful and scary. How have you handled an allegation as a foster or adoptive parent? Share your tips and words of support for those foster or adoptive parents who are dealing with an allegation.

If you have not had to deal with an allegation yet, please continue reading. I always let new foster parents know, it's truly just a matter of time as most foster parents have to deal with an allegation at some point. It seems to just come with the territory. Don't understand why? Please read this quick definition.

Allegations as an Adoptive Parent

I feel that this is an important topic that every foster or adoptive parents need to take into consideration because no matter what great cause you have done that no one else will do, one simple allegation can turn your entire upside down. I have Adopted 9 Therapeutic Adoption two sibling groups all for behavioral issues not physical. I was accused of Child abuse toward one of my sons because him and his brother got into a fight and he went to school with bruises he was taken from the home and placed with my parents. This is the thing I work for the Missing and exploited children's amber alert team investigators through the Department of Justice. The state child protective services team out of Casa Grande AZ thought they had and open and shut case of which they were proven to be wrong. They have not only traumatized one of my younger child thinking every time someone comes to the door that they are taking him they also make discouragement of people wanting to adopt therapeutic cases.

—Emouchette

A great resource!

The Sept/Oct issue of Fostering Families Today focused on this very topic. For information about allegations, how to prevent them, what to do if you're faced with one, visit www.fosteringfamiliestoday.com.

—Guest Fostering Families Today

Lie Leads to More Supervision

We had 1 of our children tell his mom he was being hit by a family member outside the home. It was a lie. Now when ever the person comes to my home we can't leave them alone. They have to be watched even around their own grand kids.

—Guest friend