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Readers Respond: How Do You Make Your Child's Birth Culture a Part of Everyday Life?

Responses: 3


Take a moment to share your parenting tips for helping the interracially adopted or fostered child maintain a healthy connection to his or her birth culture. Sometimes it's the little things like observing a holiday. It may even be the big moments like a trip back to their birth country. Whatever it is, share with our community how you helped a child keep their birth culture a part of everyday life.

Learn about the culture together

In my community, there's a wonderful Chinese language and culture program that is about 80% Chinese adoptees and their Caucasian parents. Both the kids and the parents learn the Chinese language, a bit about the holidays and lots about food! It's a wonderful program, and not too difficult to start in your own community. Just find someone willing to teach and a few more kids and you've got a classroom!
—Guest MdMomof3

Decorating for a Chinese Christmas

My cousins adopted their daughter from China. For Christmas, they decorate the tree with paper chains, lanterns and flowers. They talk about where she came from and how special their trip to pick her up was for them. They also surround their tree with pictures from China. It's so beautiful!
—Guest Apryl

Make it Important

I don't have experience with adoption or foster care, but I am bi-racial and grew up in an all white family. From the time I was young, my mom made it a point to introduce dolls that looked like me, as well stories and history related to African American culture. When I resisted her efforts, she showed me that she valued that aspect of my ancestry even when I didn't. She taught her kids at school African American folktales, songs, and crafts. She celebrated Kwanzaa with them. Basically, she showed me that it was important for everyone to know, not just me. As an adult, I am thankful for the messages she sent me in that regard. I think it's essential for interracial families to fully embrace all of the cultures that are part of the family ancestry, and in meaningful and long-term ways. It might be challenging, but I believe it's worth it.
—Guest Christy

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