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Readers Respond: How Did You Decide Between a Domestic or International Adoption?

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When weighing out the pros and cons of adoption choices, what prompted you to choose one adoption choice over another? Did the cost of international adoption hold you back or was it the travel? Did your heart go out for the children in your state's foster care program or did you just want to help children closer to home? How did you decide between a domestic or international adoption? Share Your Thoughts

HEADACHE

We adopted in '05. Forgot about the tax credit. The last 3 years we've been having to pay fed/state taxes. This year, we needed to amend the last 5 years of tax returns. The only preparer that knew anything about doing this was Jackson Hewitt. H&R Block said it could not be done and Liberty Tax service had no clue. Call Jackson Hewitt, and save yourselves headaches!
—Guest Nate's mom

Domestic Adoption

Having already a biological child and have seen all the different phases of child development, I feel that the first years of our child's life are fundamental. In International adoption (especially now under the Hague Convention), it is almost impossible to get newborns. Many children spend years in orphanages and do not get the love, stimulation and nutrition that a family would give. I choose domestic adoption because I wanted to be present in my child's life from day one. I live outside the US and have seen how corrupted the adoption process can be. Therefore, I chose US domestic adoption and adopted a newborn baby boy 16 months ago. We couldn't be more happy!
—Guest Jennifer

International Adoptions Are Challenging

I am not an adoptive parent, but the parents I know who have done international adoptions have found them very challenging. I think they are best undertaken by those with a lot of resources, financial and otherwise. It would be terrible to find a child and get partway through the process and not be able to follow through.
—Guest Siouxsie

Adoption Cost May Be a Main Factor

I haven't because I need to weight the considerations for a while. I think cost might be the reason I look to domestic, but we will see.
—Guest Libby

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