O.K. It seems that the reports mentioned earlier were wrong about Angelina Jolie's adoption of the Vietnamese boy being final in May. Well, Jolie is in Vietnam right now with her oldest child, Maddox, completing the adoption of little 3 1/2-year-old Pham Quang Sang from the Tam Binh orphanage in Ho Chi Minh. According to the latest report this was an emotional meeting as the child was very frightened of Jolie and Maddox. The same report states that Jolie has changed the child's name to Pax Thien and is planning on completing the rest of the adoption paperwork later today when the child will also be issued an American passport.
I think this adoption journey may be a bit different for Angelina Jolie and her family as she adopted much younger children in the past. I wonder what she has done to prepare for an older child adoption. Has she considered the language barrier? Did she research changing the child's name before making her final decision? Some research suggests that changing a toddler's name may cause identity problems later in teen years. I learned this from attachment expert Vera Fahlberg at a conference several years ago.
I think the Jolie-Pitt's will find that bonding with Pax will be work as he is losing everything at this time and is probably extremely confused, scared, and grieving his many losses. He is losing the only home he has ever known, as he was abandoned as an infant and placed in the orphanage, the only care givers he as ever known, his country, and his language. Jolie seems to do an excellent job in maintaining her children's culture, such as raising Maddox to be Buddhist which would be the custom in his native Cambodia, but is she ready to do the work of bonding and helping a child through his grief?
What have you done in your family to help with bonding or grief? If you've adopted an older child, what issues surprised you or for what issues were you not prepared to face? Click "comments" below and share.
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